Ah Kai's Egosphere

Thur's shoot marks the end of all major events I'm tasked to complete for this year.. well, at least till this point in time =p Am gradually slipping into slacker mode now and this weekend is especially juicy since I dun have any pressing work to rush... Can totally relax and enjoy~!

So far so good => Ever since I left the movie that I was assistant marketing, my Luck has been improving~ Even the horoscope readings on the newspaper and magazines said so Hahaha! So I truely believe next year would be a great year for me hee hee~!

Had a talk with boss again about company's morale. Didnt really have enough time to fully conveyed my entire thoughts nor did I think it was appropriate/effective to tell him everything... thus I'm not very sure if he totally understands or can sense what I was trying to drive at.. I'm sure he did listen to what I said, but it's always hard to get thru when the other party thinks he knows everything.. The reason why I even bothered telling him in the first place was because I know he has a good heart and is a boss who is willing to take feedback. Otherwise I wudnt even have cared... But well..

I never believe in the use of Fear to stimulate actions nor the legitimacy of Power just because of authority. 智者以德服人，得人心者得天下。Fear does not breeds Productivity, Respect & Mutual Understanding do. Which is why I never anyhow scold or shout at my surbodinates. When I do, it would be for serious mistakes that warrant for such treatment. I believe that people have certain degree of self-dignity to want to perform. Of course the working attitude differs from people to people. There are those who are seriously of a much lower grade than others. And yes we do have that range in our office. And one of the main gribes, if I were to raise, of my boss is the double-standards he practices at times with regards to the treatment of staff. But that's another story for another time...

Anyway, yes I do agree that youngsters these days are too fragile and ignorant about the world around them. But just because one does not know how to use/understand something that may be common sense to the majority of everyone else, it doesnt mean he or she deserves to be treated in a less amiable fashion during the course of learning. Everyone has gota start somewhere. Can you fault a 50 year old uncle for not knowing how to use a computer just because a 5 year old can use it with ease???

Yet there is also the dilemma of the natural balance in the universal: when there is yin, there must be yang. There probably wouldnt be Kindness without the existence of Evilness. Someone's gota play the "bad guy" or the "father's role", as boss puts it. To a certain level, it's true. People cannot be trusted to enjoy absolute freedom nor can we expect all of them to appreciate Kindness. But I still believe the world can be run by benevolent leaders who do not have to resort to the hurting of their followers' self-esteem in order to achieve greatness. I'd had bosses like that, I do still believe such a management model can work.

Money cannot buy everything and it certainly does not have the power to make the world goes round. Not everyone believes in that, but our company is a good testament to that faith. But if one subscribes to this belief, then one must understand that the best substitute for money in making things work are the precious relationships between people.

Thus it is definitely NOT ok for the staff to hate their boss. Perhaps it is ok in large MNC where the boss is this faceless asshole who makes life miserable and the only credit to him is that he signs the cheques. But definitely not in small establishments. Small establishments require committed staff who are willing to work extra hard and be paid lesser. Each and every member in the company is crucial because of the many hats they wear. In order to succeed, members in small establishments need to stay united and function like a family. But in such "family", any hurt to any member in the "household" is hurtful to the others as well.

I'm not saying my colleagues hate my boss. Nobody does. Well, at least not yet. And I really do not wish for that to happen. He has not really scolded me before (at least not yet). And he most certainly did not even raise his voice at me when I crashed the company's van. I know he is not an unreasonable boss, in fact he can be very diplomatic if you present your case soundly enough; and I appreciate that. But how I wish that quality of his could be the quality for my fellow colleague's submission rather than the fear of him(or more specifically, his crazy temperament). I think he would be damn shocked to learn that even his most trusted ex-staff left partly because of him lor...

I just hope I'll be able to train my assistant into form fast enough to earn his respect. Yes it is true I probably deserve someone more savvy. But between a savvy kid and one who is hardworking and with great working attitude, I'll choose the latter. I have patience for ignorance and blurness, but none for laziness.

Oh well, think I'll just let this rest for a while until the need arise for another attempt to promote the "以德服人" way of managing the rest of us. Meanwhile I'll just look forward to my vacation trip next week~ Woohoo~ Haha... am totally clueless about where we are going and what we are going to do.. But I'm just contented to finally have a break Haha~!

Oh, and for the record: I'm totally, completely, absolutely over Him => Heehee! Yes, this time for sure. Hahaha~ For this, I definitely deserve someone Better~~ Muahahaha!!!